| When you enter into a coaching
relationship with Elyse, you quickly realize that the Universe has
answered your prayer for a spiritual partner who will guide you
along your personal path to the wisdom and light within you. Elyse's
insight and inspiration aligns energetically with you to form a
bridge between the internal and external worlds, diminishing
conflict and creating a more powerful oneness. Like a true Goddess,
Elyse walks her talk with integrity. She is among my most precious
blessings. P.S. Thank you universe. C.M. Clark |
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My story continued:
 
There are no mistakes. The events
we bring upon ourselves, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order
to learn;
whatever steps we take, they're necessary to reach the places we've chosen
to go.
-- Richard Bach
| Life is
Good: Although at this time I was only working part-time
(primarily I was caring for a five and a three year old) I was
absolutely loving the way my coaching practice had taken shape. I
began to take, and then lead, teleconference coach training classes,
put up my first web site at
Womens' U, and
had developed a one-on-one coaching practice averaging seven paying
clients. I remember watching John Gray on Oprah one April
afternoon in 1999, while my youngest son napped and my eldest played
with Legos at my feet, and thinking that I had finally reached the
place I had been striving for.
Whispers, taps and cosmic 2-by-4s: I wasn't the only person
whose life tuned upside down that April day. I will always be able to
track the exact date because this was also the day of Columbine
massacre. At a little after six that day I received a tearful call
from my husband telling me that he had just been fired for having
affair with his secretary.
Now, as a child of divorce and a
part-time coach -- who had the freedom to pursue my right-livelihood
while staying home with the kids only because there was another person
bringing in the primary income -- this was my greatest fear realized.
I had known that my marriage was not strong and that we were moving in
very different directions but I had kept my focus on the practical. It
seemed now that I could no longer keep my head in the sand as this
solitary thread was capable of unraveling the fabric of my life.
Anger, betrayal and crying out:
Of course I was angry at my husband. But I do specifically recall that
my most anguished pleadings were directed towards God. "How could this
happen to me? I am such a good person! Thing were just getting set
straight. In two years I could have built up enough reserves to leave
the marriage financially intact. If I close my eyes real tight
couldn't you just make this go away!"
Divine Guidance: Caroline Myss
tells a wonderful story about how, when your guardian angels determine
that it is really time for you to wake up, they show up at your door
with a checklist. Down the list they go, "This relationship isn't
right for you. You're going to have to let it go. And this job no
longer works. Are you going to quit or do we have to get you fired?"
I love this metaphor. It reminds us that often to reach the place that
we really want to go, we have to let go of the life that we imagined
ourselves living.
I couldn't sleep that night. After
rivers of fear and tears I finally reached the point of surrender. It
became clear that God wasn't going to take this nightmare away and
that something more was expected of me. When I became very still, I
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How are you going to
use this experience? |
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Crossroad:
I had a choice set before me: experience this as the worst thing that
could have happened to me and begin a spiral downward or look for the
messages and the gift. I chose the path of growth. I won't lie and say
that it was easy. I certainly faltered and went into fear -- a lot. But I
made it my priority -- through the entire separation process -- to stay
connected to my inner guidance.
My mantra for
those days was: listen, trust and take guided action and it served me very
well. I was the grateful recipient of a significant number of miracles and
I managed to successfully maneuver through the devastation while keeping
my house, my coaching career and my healthy relationships with my kids
intact. Although things were not great (I was working evenings and
weekends to supplement my coaching income and I had moved my family into a
cramped apartment while leasing my house so that I could guarantee the
mortgage would be paid each month) I found myself feeling reasonably
balanced at a time when others expected me to come unhinged. It was as if
I was being protected in a holding pattern for months while I recovered
from the fall out. And one day, only six months later, I woke up and had a
clear sense that it was time to move ahead.
Part three,
learning to manifest,
click here
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